The Mistake Leech
You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t make mistakes. Some people make a lot of little mistakes, while others make mistakes that are pretty big. But you must realize that the mistakes that you’ve made do not define who you are.
They’re not a picture of your future. Mistakes are simply something that happened that can offer you the opportunity to learn from the situation. The leech presents itself in this area by not allowing you to move on.
When you make mistakes, it’s often those closest to you who won’t let it go. They remind you of your mistake and it can feel like they’re rubbing salt in a wound. They remind you how you tried to start a business and failed, how you ruined your finances, how they warned you that the guy or girl you were crazy about was bad news.
You constantly here. “Do you remember when you did…? How dumb was that?” Or, “That wasn’t so smart.”
These mistake leeches can be hard to take, but even more so when you’re the one putting the mistake leech on yourself. You remind yourself about how you failed – how you wish you hadn’t done what you did. Let go of this self-esteem leech once and for all by telling yourself that it’s over and you’re moving on into the right direction.
Tell others the same thing if they keep bringing it up. Avoid dragging your mistakes around with you and stop letting others pile them on you as well. Take a firm stance against having the past thrown in your face to knock you down as you try to better your life.
Know that it is human to err. You learn and grow from the mistakes you make. Your mistakes do not define you. Laugh at them (and yourself)! Hahahaha! What a joy it is to be human! We came here to have fun and experience joy – so start now!
The Approval Seeker Leech
Some people have a laid back personality. Others have a more forceful personality. Both have strengths to offer. But the problem arises when someone with a stronger personality decides what your life should or shouldn’t be.
They try to make it so that you have to seek their approval in every aspect of your life. When you try to do something on your own, they’re quick to tell you why that won’t work and how it’s not smart of you to attempt it.
What this does is chip away at your self-esteem until you’re driven to come to them for advice and help with whatever you want to do in life. These kinds of leeches keep you dependent on them for your happiness (and theirs) and you surrender control of your life to them in return.
You don’t need approval to be who you are and to live the kind of life you’ve always wanted. Your actions are your own and you’re smart enough to reach for your dreams without having to seek approval.
If you don’t know in which direction you should go, take a deep breath and relax. You will learn. You are capable. You have all the answers inside of you to know what is good for you or not so good for you. You have your intuition – you may get that gut feeling or just have a knowing-ness. Start to listen and feel it more. Your higher self will always lead you in the right direction – when you allow it! You don’t need anyone else’s stamp of approval for your path.
Ahhh, enjoy the increasing self-esteem that is your birthright.
Colleen Humphries, RN, Best-Selling Author, Speaker, Breakthrough Coach
Author of Deliberate Creation from A-Z: Living Your Life by Design
Unleash the Power of Your Mind – Breakthrough to Your Success